Pain to Power

Sharing my story is important because I want others to know that they are not alone. I would also like to share the different challenges I went through as an adoptee, to help educate future adoptive parents.

An upper-middle class family adopted me.

Based on what I can recall, my childhood, after I was adopted, was of an average child with a special attribute to it.

At 13 months, I was placed in an orphanage.

According to some reports, I was found on the doorsteps of a police station.

To date, I wish I knew who my birth parents were and see our similarities if any.

I was born when China had the one-child policy.

I have a feeling that I have a sibling.

I also sense that my parents chose him to carry out the family name and to take care of them as they aged.

Adoption changed everything.

I didn’t know much about my adoptive parents prior to being adopted, but that didn’t bother me.

Since being adopted, I had to overcome multiple challenges, including the feeling of not fitting in anywhere or not being part of the Asian or white culture.

I used to ask myself, “Where do I fit in this world?”

Relationships were also an area I struggled with, especially when it came to friends.

To date, I fear abandonment. I have trust issues.

I am continuously working on my weaknesses.

Since being adopted, I proud to say that I have two sets of parents who love me.