Sharing my story is important because I want others to know that they are not alone. I would also like to share the different challenges I went through as an adoptee, to help educate future adoptive parents.
An upper-middle class family adopted me.
Based on what I can recall, my childhood, after I was adopted, was of an average child with a special attribute to it.
At 13 months, I was placed in an orphanage.
According to some reports, I was found on the doorsteps of a police station.
To date, I wish I knew who my birth parents were and see our similarities if any.
I was born when China had the one-child policy.
I have a feeling that I have a sibling.
I also sense that my parents chose him to carry out the family name and to take care of them as they aged.
Adoption changed everything.
I didn’t know much about my adoptive parents prior to being adopted, but that didn’t bother me.
Since being adopted, I had to overcome multiple challenges, including the feeling of not fitting in anywhere or not being part of the Asian or white culture.
I used to ask myself, “Where do I fit in this world?”
Relationships were also an area I struggled with, especially when it came to friends.
To date, I fear abandonment. I have trust issues.
I am continuously working on my weaknesses.
Since being adopted, I proud to say that I have two sets of parents who love me.