Holding On, Moving On

It was hard.

She said, “I went through ten different foster homes between the ages of 2 & 16.”

A system filled with memories of rejection and abuse.

A system that made Stacy Johnson realize she had nothing more to lose.

A system that made her redefine the meaning of family and love.

A system that helped her find her purpose in life, to help other foster youth rise from all of the above.

Three years ago, Stacy started Central Texas Table of Grace, an emergency foster youth shelter.

An organization, whose name was inspired by the following lyrics, “…At the table of grace, the cup's never empty. The plate's always full, and it's never too late. To come and be filled with love never ending. You're always welcome at the table of grace…”

An organization, that helped her find healing and meaning in life.

Are you living a meaningful life?


EPISODE HIGHLIGHTS:

  • On Escaping Abuse: Find an outlet that will allow you to escape your situation

  • On Healthy Mind: “Garbage in, garbage out”

  • On Goal-Setting: Visualize the outcome

  • On Life: “Your life is the lens you see it through”


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"Where Do You Belong?"

Born and abandoned.
 
She said, “When I was found by the Ahmednagar police, I was severely malnourished, miasmic, and suffering from dysentery.”
 
An event that’s difficult for most, if not all, of us to imagine.
 
An event that first showed Rebekah Mallory what rejection and lack of belonging felt like.
 
But, this wasn’t the only time Rebekah experienced rejection and lack of belonging.
 
She said, “I was seven years old… I don’t remember what brought it on or what caused it, but one of my friends was making fun of me for being black… One of the first times I was aware that I was being humiliated for being different.”
 
An instance that questioned her identity once again.
 
But, it is an instance like this that made her stronger.
 
An instance that made her realize how we should focus on our similarities rather than our differences.
 
An instance that made Rebekah embrace who she was.
 
Remember: Everyone has a story. Embrace it. Live yours.
 
“As an adoptee, there is nothing more you need than other adoptees... who bring new perspectives to the table”


EPISODE HIGHLIGHTS:

  • On Living Life: Look forward, not into the past

  • On Rejection: Be aware that it may happen

  • On Community: Find people who care about you

  • On Connecting with Others: Don’t be afraid of abandonment and rejection


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You Can’t Elevate Yourself By Putting Others Down

It was devastating.
 
She said, “I thought if other people heard it or if they knew about my early story, then they would see me as less able to do the job that I was doing. Somehow scared, less desirable to hire.”
 
A set of feelings that were difficult to escape.
 
So, she hid it for as long as possible.
 
Until one day a breaking news story developed.
 
She said, “I was on the news desk, reading this story coming down on the prompter about a homicide that had happened… The suspect was the adopted son of this couple… It said ‘the adopted son’ over and over again.”
 
A story that made Michelle realize that we cannot run from the truth of who we are.
A story that helped her embrace her adoption as a strength, not a weakness.
A story that helped Michelle define her purpose in life, to ensure that the adoption community is heard, seen, valued, respected, and understood.

"I want to help people rise… I want to help them overcome"


EPISODE HIGHLIGHTS:

  • On Becoming Resilient: Make the decision to move forward

  • On Life: Your decisions control your life, not the events that happen in it

  • On Identity: Don’t hide from your story

  • On Advocacy: Rise up every morning and be passionate about your work


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Be the Person You Needed Most When You Were Younger

Unknown.

A word that can be used to describe much of her early beginnings, especially her experience related to adoption.

She said, “There is so much that’s lost because my birth mother is no longer on the planet.”

A person, with whom April Dinwoodie wishes she had developed a stronger connection with.

A person, who may have helped April find answers to some of her burning questions, such as “Were my birth parents in love? Were they connected in some significant way? Was there a forced sexual experience?”

A list of questions that will always remain a part of her identity.

An identity that was formed by taking bold steps forward, not backward.

Helping her gain significant experience in the process, including CEO at The Donaldson Adoption Institute, founder of Adoptment and host of the rapidly growing podcast, Born in June Raised April.

Leading her to experiences that have helped her position herself as a thought leader within the adoption and foster care community.

A thought leader, whose efforts continuously challenge the norm.

A thought leader, whose efforts could be looked upon as inspiration for future leaders.


EPISODE HIGHLIGHTS:

  • On Claiming Identity: Embrace your differences

  • On Transracial Adoption: Be fierce about protecting your child, physically and emotionally

  • On Qualities of Great Mentors: Commitment, Patience, and Presence

  • On Advocacy: Strive to become an influencer


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Creating A Meaningful Life

October 15th, 2014.
 
The day she received her diagnosis.
 
It was thyroid cancer.
 
She said, “I have been working with cancer for almost 20 years and I have never had it before. So, to get diagnosed with it was shocking.”
 
A condition that is often times kept as a secret.
 
But, for Pamela Cordano it was different.
 
It was an opportunity to learn things she didn’t already know.
 
To develop a mindset that helped her excel as a being, adoptee, and psychotherapist.

A mindset that has made her life more meaningful.
 
I asked, “How does one find meaning?”
 
She said, “Meaning is available to all of us, all the time… I think that when our lives aren’t meaningful or we’re lacking meaning in our lives, it’s when we’ve become disconnected from it… There is an abundance of meaning around us all the time that’s just waiting for us.”
 
She continued by saying, “Meaning can be experienced through our senses… things that we do like our work or an art… people, places and things that we love… important stories from our past… the legacy we want to leave in the future… attitudes that are important to us when we encounter adversity or life’s limitations.”
 
Are you living a meaningful life?


EPISODE HIGHLIGHTS:

  • On Cancer: Treat it as an opportunity for learning and growth

  • On Abuse: Speak up if you can

  • On Development: Elevate others first

  • On Resilience: Move into an expanded state of mind

  • On Happiness: Give before you receive


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Battles of Life

Five percent. That was her chance of survival.
 
A hard thought for most, if not for all of us, to swallow.
 
What would you do if you were told you had a five percent chance at life?
 
Would you be satisfied with the person you have become, the lessons you’ve passed on to others, and the amount of time you’ve spent with those you love?
 
But, Karin McHugh is different compared to others.
 
She developed a mindset that she wishes to pass on to others; to never give up, no matter how difficult the circumstances may be.

This mindset helped her overcome a difficult illness that prevented her from witnessing the birth of her son.

An illness that taught her a tough, but an important lesson: to not reason, but rather accept things for what they are. And most importantly, to choose to fight on.


EPISODE HIGHLIGHTS:

  • On Adoption: Don’t tell your children they’re “different”

  • On Recovery: Take time to process your feelings

  • On Acceptance: Don’t try to find a reason, but rather accept things for what they are

  • On Experience: Yours may be different, but it is no less valid than anyone’s

  • On Finding Courage: Find your safe space

The Rise of the Adoptee

It was humiliating.

Every time they left the household, whether it was to the grocery store or the mall, “My placement in the family was questioned.”

She said, “People wanted to know how much I cost, where I came from, how my parents found me and where my real parents were.”

Questions that made Reshma McClintock feel embarrassed.

Questions that made her feel unsafe.

Questions that ignited her current work, Dear Adoption.

I asked, “How and why did you create, Dear Adoption?”

She said, “I started talking about it with my family first… then I started writing about it… I wrote publicly about adoption… Then, a friend from high school whom I haven’t seen or spoken to for about 17 years contacted me. He contacted me… and asked if I have been back to Kolkata. I said, “I’ve been to India, but not Kolkata.” He said, “What if we filmed a documentary about your first return?”

Fast-forward a few years, Calcutta is My Mother, was born.

A documentary that triggered hundreds of responses from other adoptees.

Responses that led Reshma to create a space for other adoptees.

A space where adoptees can share their perspectives on adoption, whether they’re for it or not.

A space that makes them feel safe.

A space that makes them feel like they belong.

Help others elevate before you elevate yourself.


EPISODE HIGHLIGHTS:

  • On Questioning: Think before you speak

  • On Grief: Don’t try to contain it

  • On Stereotypes/Racism: Have a pulse on the society/culture

  • On Sharing: Create a space for it

  • On Courage: Surround yourself with others who support you

  • Three principles to live by: Listen, persist, and have grace


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Discovering Self-Worth

She felt unworthy.

Shame, combined with lack of belonging, began to take over her life.

A decision had to be made. It was either to find a way to overcome the obstacles in front of her or suffer for the rest of her life.

As most of us can relate, it is moments like these that define who we are.

Moments, filled with tragedy and pain that make us stop what we’re doing and reflect.

For Holly Lysne, an adoptee from the Baby Scoop Era and avid journaler, the healing process was no different.

She said, “I decided to fight back. I was not going to let that sense of shame win.”

I asked, “How did you do it?”

She said, “Mindfulness.”

A practice through which you face your deepest and darkest emotions.

A practice that will take you on a journey as you seek answers to questions such as, “What are my feelings? What are my emotions? And where do they stem from?”

A practice that has helped Holly develop a different perspective on suffering and pain.

A perspective, which made her realize that pain and suffering are temporary.

Remember: nothing lasts forever.

When life gets hard, know that a brighter day will follow!


EPISODE HIGHLIGHTS:

  • On Adoption: Listen to your heart

  • On Relationships: It’s always a work in progress

  • On Meditation: Take a walk in nature, find quiet time, focus on a single simple task

  • On Pain: It’s temporary

  • On Our Judgements of Others: They often reflect our own shortcomings

  • On Developing Trust: Take it one day at a time

"Don’t Take a Day for Granted"

She was afraid.
 
It was either to hide her sickness or never get called for another job in her industry.
 
For Jeanette, her job was much more than simply receiving another paycheck.
 
It’s a job, which also happens to be her hobby and passion.
A job that allows her to express how appreciative she is of her adoptive family.
A job that taught her some of the most important lessons in life, including this one: “Don’t take a day for granted.”
 
So, she hid it.
 
She said, “I was constantly trying to figure out when the shows were going to end, so I could time my surgeries and doctors apportionments. It was not easy”
 
It is times like these that would leave most, if not all, of us hopeless.
 
But, Jeanette Jolley was different.
 
She said, “It was either to quite this industry… or I need to snap out of this, and fix it and keep going with life.”
 
So, she decided to go with the second option, which ultimately led her to become an accomplished television producer, voice for other adoptees, mostly women, and especially those going through infertility.
 
I asked, “Do you have any advice for others who are going through similar experiences?”
 
She said, “Listen to yourself, embrace the emotions and find people that you can trust.”

Tune in as Jeanette shares tips and tricks for succeeding in the entertainment industry, what it means to be adopted, and how to find balance in your everyday life.


EPISODE HIGHLIGHTS:

  • On Healing: It takes time

  • On Family: Make them proud of you

  • On Life: Live up to your values

  • On Interviewing: Make it a friendly conversation

  • On Work: Always leave a good impression

  • On Success: It takes a lot of determination and self-motivation


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Never Say, “Can’t”

She was born without legs.
 
Later on, she was placed for adoption.
 
Two life-changing events that would leave most of us hopeless.
 
But, Jen Bricker was different.
 
She said, “I played softball, volleyball, and basketball with no wheelchair or prosthetics. At the time, I didn’t think it was out of the norm. I didn’t think it was amazing. I didn’t understand why everyone thought it was amazing. To me, I was just doing what I loved and what I was good at.”
 
Out of all of the sports, it was gymnastics that took her to places she had never been to before.
 
It was gymnastics that revealed one of the biggest secrets in her life.
 
She said, “I grew up in Southern Illinois. There really wasn’t much diversity… Nobody looked like me, and certainly, no one was Romanian… So, when I saw her, not only did she look like me, which no one looked like me, but she was Romanian, and she was doing my favorite sport.”
 
At 16, she began looking for answers in order to make sense of the similarities between Jen and her idol, Dominique Moceanu, Olympic gold medalist.
 
Her findings were mind-boggling.
 
Jen’s childhood idol was, in fact, her biological sister.
 
She said, “The person that I was drawn to as a kid... there is a reason why I was drawn to her.”
 
After several failed attempts, Jen and Dominique finally met.
 
For some, it may be just a story.
For Jen, it was a confirmation that you can achieve anything that you set your mind to.
 
The building blocks behind life and success can be found in her newly published book, “Everything Is Possible: Finding the Faith and Courage to Follow Your Dreams.”


EPISODE HIGHLIGHTS:

  • On self-development: Don’t compare yourself to others

  • On new opportunities: Have no expectations

  • On possibilities: You can achieve anything that you set your mind to

  • On self-worth: We’re all on this planet for a different purpose. We all matter


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